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Thursday, June 01, 2006

Belly Shots

I thought it might be fun to post some pregnant belly pics. This photo is of my friend, Lucia (left) and I. We were about eight months pregnant and getting a bit nutty with my photographer friend, Peter. He asked us what labor felt like. Being that it was both of our second pregnancies, we had a pretty good idea what was in store and pantomimed labor.

When the proofs came back I was surprised to see that our fake labor session birthed a pretty good photo. At the time, I was writing Frankly Pregnant and thought it would make a great cover for the book. When I shopped it around to agents and publishers, they all loved the photo. Even up to the final days of production, this photo was to appear on the cover. I cannot tell you the details of how and why my publisher changed the photo at the last minute, for fear of being blacklisted. But, I can tell you I was supremely disappointed for a number of reasons.

First, I thought the photo really depicted what the book was all about: going through pregnancy with a girlfriend and sharing the experience with laughter.

Second, having Lucia on the cover may increase the chance of the book getting a mention on Live with Regis and Kelly. Lucia and I had been to the show a few times and she reconnected with her childhood friend, Michael Gelman, the producer of the show. I had fantasized about going to the show again; giving Gelman a book and asking him to have Kelly hold it up during the host chat. “That’s my friend from the beach,” Gelman would shout from stage left.

And lastly, and most importantly, I wanted that photo on the cover for Lucia. She is one of my dearest friends and is the most giving, kind and thoughtful person I know. She is always the one to organize our “girls” dinners, trips and birthday celebrations. She sends hand embroidered thank you notes for having a simple chicken dinner at my house. She buys presents for everyone she knows for each birthday, anniversary, baptism, Bar Mitzvah, confirmation, graduation, baby naming, memorial or holiday.

Lucia and I became really close during our second pregnancies. We shared every baby kick, hemorrhoid, horrormonal hysteria and hating our husbands. Later, we even shared those precious times just wondering at our newborn babies.

While breastfeeding together one day Lucia asked, “Have you ever had a blocked milk duct?” Yes, I had. They’re usually quite painful. Her lump wasn’t painful. “Feel this. What do you think?” she had asked. I leaned over and felt the hard node on her breast. It felt solid and black and cold. It was cancer.

Today Lucia is still battling cancer and her prognosis is not good. It breaks my heart when I think of what may happen to her children…. Aggggh. I’m not going there now.

Anyway, the point is, I wanted to have this photo on the cover to be a gift, a tribute if you will, to Lucia and let her share, in some small way, the fame of being on a book cover.

Geeesh! I thought this was going to be a short post. I guess a picture really does tell a thousand words.

I’d love to see your pregnant belly shots too. I thought about linking to photos on other blogs of such bellies and commenting but decided against it. These photos are private and should only be shared and discussed willingly. If you want to share your belly shots on this blog, please email me with the photo and a brief or not-so-brief (you know, the thousand words thing could take over) description. Please don't be intimidated by my professionally photographed pic here. There will be plenty more layman shots to come.


Blogger TL said...


What a touching blog post. My best friend and I became best friends during our pregnancy. It was so nice to have someone to compare notes with, on what was going on with our bodies and our hopes and dreams.

In October she moved away to Colorado from Texas. Funny thing about distance, it has really brought us closer but it sucks, each day I miss having her right down the road. Our babies, not so much babies any more, are 19 months (her son) and 16 months (my daughter). We have pretty much planned that they will marry and have super tall children, I can wish can't I?!

Knowing how much I miss Kim, I cannot imagine how you are feeling. Lucia looks so beautiful, as do you pregnant, how the fuck did you two pull that off? I can only imagine what a wonderful person she is to you and I am praying for the best for her recovery. Your such a dear friend to offer her the spotlight here like you have. You only get a few choice friends in your life like that, treasure that friendship.

Hugs to you both!!

6:04 PM  
Anonymous Gerah said...

This is heartbreaking. There are just too many women out there with breast cancer.

I will TOTALLY email you a belly shot. My melon's about as ripe as they get right now.

1:11 PM  
Blogger Catizhere said...


I got goosebumps when I read "cancer". Your friend is a beatutiful, vibrant,full of life person from what I can gather in that picture! She looks like a laugh a minute kind-of-gal. I hope and pray she kicks this thing in the ass!

I will absolutely email my belly-shots to you. I was just thinking I need to update since that silly "linea negro" is starting to show now.

3:00 PM  
Blogger Woman Wonders said...

Thank you SO MUCH for stopping by my blog and for having my blog link on your blog roll :) You rock! :) I recently received your book as a blog giveaway kind of thing from Wonder Mom --

I can't wait to start reading it! WOW!

I am so sorry about your beautiful friend, her story broke my heart. I just can't imagine.

My thoughts and prayers are with her and her entire family. And yours as well.

PS This weekend I will try to work on some belly shots and you will definetly get them if I do them! :)

3:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

stacey, I very rarely go on my computer and do this kind of thing but, I promised you last night that I would. I had a pretty good idea of what you were getting at when we were discussing the photo of you and Lucia. I have known Lucia for about 25 years and your description of her is so accurate. She is a rare gem. In the midst of something so difficult it must be so wonderful for you two to have shared those times together.
Good luck with your book(s) and, as always, my thoughts and prayers are with our incredible friend, Lucia. Much love, Tracy A.

3:32 PM  
Blogger tracey said...

Wow. Powerful post. Thanks for sharing. I'm sure Lucia treasures you as much as you do here. Mom friends are the rarest of gems indeed.

I'm very excited I came across your site. I have I'm guessing here, a gaziliion pregnancy shots of me...many which are self portraits. I'm emailing you soon!

12:29 PM  
Blogger Mom101 said...

You are a great friend. Lucky Lucia.

12:33 AM  
Blogger lynsalyns said...

I hate cancer. I hate it. I'm sorry you lost your friend. I'm thinking about her babies. There are no adequate words to describe this kind of grief.

5:46 PM  

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